Romantic relationships may be accompanied by some difficulties, but if the subject of your love is a coworker, then everything can get even more complicated. There is a reason to worry about company policy, the reactions of your colleagues, and the fact that a supervisor can spoil your romantic relationship. But if you are really interested in one of your coworkers, you can take the first step while maintaining professional boundaries and working on the development of your relationship.
1. Be aware of company policy
Before inviting a colleague on a date, spend some time to study the company’s policies. Many companies adhere to a strict policy that prohibits romantic relationships between coworkers. The rules of other enterprises are more lenient – you are only required to inform the manager.
If you love your job and do not want to lose it, and your company prohibits relationships between colleagues, then you should probably date someone outside of work.
2. Talk in private
If you want to ask your colleague out on a date, make sure that no one hears you. Take a person aside or ask for a walk or lunch with you. Ask them out to have a date with you. Reassure them that they have some time to think, given all the difficulties that may entail such a relationship.
3. Spend some time together
If they agree to date you, then spend some time alone with this person outside the office. Try to choose a place where one of your colleagues or the boss is unlikely to catch you kissing so that no one will know about your relationships until you are ready to reveal them to others. It may sound repetitive and common, but watching a movie can be a great idea, especially when at home. Both of you are in a private place and you can do intimate and fun things like playing sex card games or actually just doing it. I think I remember something about sex games from a published article by Fiona Petree on PlugLust about how it can build up sexual tension and make sex even more powerful.
4. Do not rush things
If you want to end your relationship, you will not be able to avoid that colleague as in the case of other ex-partners. Relationships with this person will be part of both the professional and personal aspects of your life. In the early stages, do not spend too much time together until you are sure that this is the person you want to have a serious relationship with, remember that sometimes it is better to have a relationship moving slow, just make sure you understand how slow is too slow in a relationship.
5. Don’t date people that are either lower or higher than you on the food chain
If you are in the management position, keep in mind that the requirements for you are much higher, and you may run into problems if you have an affair with someone from your subordinates. You should not meet with someone you can raise or dismiss. Such a relationship implies lots of different ethical and professional problems, so you have to think twice about starting it.
6. Pick only single matches
If you know that the person you are interested in is married or in a romantic relationship, do not seek them. Also, it would be a good idea to stay away from a person who has dated someone from your staff in the past – this can cause some jealousy. Find out this information by secretly asking your employees, searching the pages on social networks, or looking for a wedding ring or a picture of a spouse on their desktop.
7. Work must be your main priority during business hours
A new affair should not distract you from the duties. Flirting at work should be cut to the minimum or completely avoided. Even if you quarreled the day before, this should in no way affect the work. Follow the schedule and to-do list and continue to carry out all your tasks well and promptly.
8. Limit your meetings at work
Do not spend time alone with your lover at work. Have dinner together sometimes, not every day. Continue to maintain friendly relations with your other colleagues.
9. No sexual tension during work!
Even if you want to hug or kiss your partner at work, keep in mind that this may cause some damage to your professional reputation. The fact that others know that you are in a romantic relationship is normal, but at work, you must adhere to the framework of a strictly working relationship.
10. Move up the career ladder without any help
Do not ask your partner to do anything to push you up the career ladder. Instead, rely on your own merits and work hard to achieve what you want. You will feel better, and your partner will be proud of you.